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Voices from the Chaos
Politics. What a ride this year's election has been, with the halting result of having Trump in office. I remember walking around my workplace the day after and wondering which of my coworkers had voted for Mr. Trump. For the first time in my life after an election, I was fearful that people who aligned themselves with Mr. Trump also shared his hateful and discriminatory views. The irony of this is that Christian leaders were among the many who vouched for and supported Mr. Trump.

In contrast, and one of the bright spots in this election season, true Christian voices have emerged from the chaos that do not diminish the gospel or pander for political clout. Most notable is Russell Moore, who more eloquently and unequivocally states what I felt to be the impact on our collective reputation and our ability to witness:

"The question of moral credibility is real, but a loss of moral credibility is not the most traumatic wound of 2016. Some Christian leaders and publications pronounce a self-described unrepentant man a “baby Christian” or as representing “Christian values and family values.” With this, we have left far behind quibbles about which candidate is the lesser of two evils or about the future of the Supreme Court or even whether we should support candidates we never could have imagined supporting before. This is instead a first-order question of theology—overheard by the world of our mission field—a question of the very definition of the Gospel itself, and what it means to be saved or lost."

Columnist Rod Dreher presents some of Mr. Moore's sayings in its stark contrast to and pointed critique of Right Wing Christians. I am thankful for voices like Mr. Moore, and even of the environment that distilled and brought it to the surface.

Church. The last few months have been unique in difficulty at our local church. The saying "when life throws you lemons.." ignores how God has predestined certain hardships in our lives; and for some to be borne and experienced by the church as a whole (whether big "C" or little "c") is something I can appreciate if not enjoy. All of mankind falls short of God's glory, and life is a constant reminder that we need God for everything.

Family. I am thankful for brothers who have the same struggles as I do, whether real or perceived. It's easy to feel defeated when your family struggles but one brother in particular says it well:

"It's like knowing the weightiness of their decisions and the eternal impact, having to confront your own fears and discomfort with having conversations, wanting to be an ambassador and show them things are better, yet leaving decisions to them to decide. Ultimately, it's up to God and being at peace with that. When something means a lot, I micromanage when God is saying it's up to Him. How foolish is my own wisdom, and how lacking in faith we can be."

God has been teaching me compassion and humility over the years, and in regards to my present situation, I felt that God was convicting me with the story of Jesus healing the crippled woman in Luke 13. It's intentional on my part to ignore another's suffering, even if it is self-inflicted, so that it's easier to criticize. Oh, that we can pull off the blinders and see the joy that Jesus has in each of us on the other side of grace.

Mineo. Recently stumbled across Christian rapper Andy Mineo. His album, Uncomfortable, not only got me jamming to Christian rap that I never thought possible, but also moved me with the gospel in the process. It's a beautiful thing when someone uses their gifts fully for the kingdom, and I see that in Mr. Mineo's craft. I pray that I and others in the church can do the same.

One of the things I really like about his tracks are how unstructured they are - there isn't the usual repetition of verse and hook. Instead, he allows the message of the track to dictate the structure. Often times, he will have a pseudo-interlude in between verses, and sometimes (as with the title track for "Uncomfortable") he ends the track with a great observation/conviction. Here it is for Uncomfortable:

We got legal weed that'll keep us high
'Round the world other people die
Where on earth is my wi-fi?
Our stomachs full and our pockets fat
I need love, there's a site for that
I had more when I had less
I think I got too comfortable, yeah

2016 Presidential Race
Back in July, when it became clear that Mr. Trump would be facing off against Ms. Clinton, I began writing a post to work through my thoughts about each candidate, but especially of Mr. Trump. Since then, numerous articles have come and essentially espoused my same positions, with this post coming closest. Still, I feel necessary to write something myself if only to help me sort out my own thoughts.

Single Faith, not Single Issue. As D.A. Carson points out, Christians have a tendency to become single issue voters. This makes sense. On issues of morality or the sanctity of life, Christians have the weight of scripture behind them, and feel validated to vote accordingly. But this election year more than any other has shown us that voting primarily around one or two major issues may leave a voter with large blind spots. Dr. Wayne Grudem's vocal support of Mr. Trump and recent reversal was just one of many about-faces our Christian leaders have taken after being blinded in one way or another. (See also Dr. Ben Carson, and most notoriously Dr. James Dobson.)

Being a single issue voter has blinded Christian Republicans from the positions that Mr. Trump takes that are at odds with scripture. Pro-life does not negate non-fetal lives, immigrant lives, Black lives, etc. Pro-traditional-marriage does not negate the worth of homosexual lives in God's eyes and his desire to see them come to know him.

But what if there is no party and/or candidate that fully supports what scripture says? Then we praise God because it means we can dive deeper into scripture for wisdom, pray more earnestly that the Holy Spirit convict us of our ways and lead us to a right understanding. No candidate outside of Jesus himself has ever existed that fully supports and embodies "Christian values", and we should take the blinders off if we ever thought a party or candidate ever has or ever will. May God give us grace to discuss issues with one another and witness to those who don't know Jesus that our faith unites and overcomes any division that this world may present.

Questionable Support. The last few months have also proved what I thought in my original post - that Mr. Trump's support for Christian issues is as uncertain as can be. We saw this months ago when Mr. Trump initially would not support fellow Republicans Ryan and McCain in their own election year campaigns. (He later would give a lukewarm, scripted support for them.) We saw this in his continued lack of coordination with his own VP on vital topics. And we saw this most recently in his essential rejection of the Republican party, as many decided to withdraw support fearing their own campaigns at risk as long as they were aligned with Mr. Trump.

Character issues aside, Christians should take into consideration the significant potential that Mr. Trump will not actually follow through with his platform promises if he is elected. This would call into question many of the reasons why Christians might support Mr. Trump - from Supreme Court justices on down.

Only Two Options. I know many Christians who are voting for a third-party candidate or not voting at all. I understand that some Christians actually hate Ms. Clinton. If this is the case, even after re-examining how you came to your conclusions (as Dr. Grudem has with Mr. Trump), then a third-party candidate may be the only choice. But if you can vote for Ms. Clinton, I do think this is the best choice in so far that it does not allow Mr. Trump to win. Realistically, Mr. Johnson or whatever other third-party candidate you choose will not have a chance to win this election. Building momentum so that eventually there are more than two major parties is admirable, but the risk of allowing Mr. Trump win this year cannot be ignored. One must vote Ms. Clinton to block a Trump presidency.

On less strategic grounds, I cannot see how Mr. Johnson would be a competent choice for President. Not only is he woefully inexperienced in international affairs, he sides with Ms. Clinton on the aforementioned major Christian issues.

Support for Clinton. Despite my apparent avoidance of the subject, I do see positives with Ms. Clinton. Yes, she is directly against many Christian positions. Yes, her positions sway with her largely liberal support, and her "evolution" on gay rights (along with President Obama's) leave me feeling disdain and contempt. Yes, she lied and covered up the fiasco that is Benghazi, and was reckless in her handling of emails. And yet, of all candidates, she is unequivocally the most experienced, the most educated, the most skilled to do the job. Can those negatives negate some of the positives? Many believe so. But if you look at the overall life work of Ms. Clinton vs Mr. Trump, you will see a very obvious contrast not only in arena (public service vs business) but also in character. Republicans now are beginning to be honest with themselves about this - that, or self-preserving.

Thank you, Mr. Trump. I am thankful for Mr. Trump for bringing about such wide divisions within the Christian community on how our same faith should be realized in American politics. It convicts us on the sin in our heart when we judge one another. It castigates us when we lack the trust in our Lord, the creator of heaven and earth and all in between, that He is in control.

But most of all, this election year has allowed a dialogue, however caustic, to learn more about one another. I personally have been able to see the good and noble reasons why Americans, Christian and non-Christian, are supporting Mr. Trump. Many feel that their way of life is being threatened, and are worried about their finances and livelihood. Christians nearby should take note, to not allow division just because of one's own political opinion, and to be the gospel to them and their concerns. How true is the gospel if it cannot reach across party lines?

The End. Is this the end for the evangelical lobby of the Republican party? If so, it is bitter-sweet. Bitter because Christians around the country will begin to face more pressure from laws and opinions that are not in the spirit of our founding fathers, and their faith. But it's sweet on more accounts. Sweet because Christians will now need to suffer more for their faith, which will help us treasure our Lord Jesus even more. Sweet because Christians will now be smoked out of their safe havens into a more hostile environment to share their beliefs. Sweet because Christians will no longer have a party or platform to blindly support based on one or two major issues; they will have to fully evaluate the whole of the platform and the person, and pray to God for wisdom for the sake of our nation.

If this is the end, may God grant His children strength to live in an era of increasing evil, yet with mercies that renew every morning.

Exam. After 15 years, I am finally done with exams. Thank you God for blessing me and my family with this last exam pass. My friends who finished before me were right though - rather than jubilation, the main feeling is of relief.

I'm still sorting out how to spend my newfound time. Taking care of the new little one will probably eat up all of that discretionary time but I am still thinking and plotting. Definitely been hanging out more with people and working out more. But I encountered a significant barrier to working out recently...

Back Pain. A few weeks ago, I had my first strained back experience. I was immobile, on the ground for two hours until the muscle gradually relaxed and I was able to roll over and slowly sit up. My doctor says this is just part of growing old, and that it is indeed all downhill from here. I'm glad my doctor is not also a psychologist.

Caring for our Church. I had a great conversation with a church member recently who shared with me her concerns about our church. I must admit that being in leadership lends me to be more likely personally hurt when criticism, even when constructive, is shared. Still, I was really grateful for this sister confiding in me.

There are many things that our church needs to improve upon, and I am not wise enough to know where to start. All realms of my faith seem to come back to this need for prayer, and helping care for the church is definitely no exception.

Great quotes. Rosaria Champagne Butterfield's book, "Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert" was intended to only prepare me for a sermon series on homosexuality, but it instead opened my eyes to so many ways her background in the LGBT community helped reveal the sin of American churches. Below are some quotes that really stuck with me:

  • “I believed then and I believe now that where everybody thinks the same nobody thinks very much.” (p3)

  • “Christians still scare me when they reduce Christianity to a lifestyle and claim that God is on the side of those who attend to the rules of the lifestyle they have invented or claim to find in the Bible.” (p5)

  • “The most memorable part of this meal was Ken’s prayer before the meal. I had never heard anyone pray to God as if God cared, as if God listened, and as if God answered. It was not a pretentious prayer uttered for the heathen at the table to overhear… It was a private and honest utterance, and I felt as though I was treading on something real, something sincere, something important, and something transparent but illegible to me.” (p10)

  • “Sin is not a mistake. A mistake is taking the wrong exit on the highway. A sin is treason against a Holy God. A mistake is a logical misstep. Sin lurks in our heart and grabs us by the throat to do its bidding.” (p36)

  • “What good Christians don’t realize is that sexual sin is not recreational sex gone overboard. Sexual sin is predatory. It won’t be “healed” by redeeming the context or the genders. Sexual sin must simply be killed. What is left of your sexuality after this annihilation is up to God. But healing, to the sexual sinner, is death: nothing more and nothing less. I told my audience that I think too many young Christian fornicators plan that marriage will redeem their sin. Too many young Christian masturbators plan that marriage will redeem their patterns. Too many young Christian internet pornographers think that having legitimate sex will take away the desire to have illicit sex. They’re wrong. And the marriages that result from this line of thinking are dangerous places. I know, I told my audience, why over fifty percent of Christian marriages end in divorce: because Christians act as though marriage redeems sin. Marriage does not redeem sin. Only Jesus himself can do that.” (p83)

  • “We have had people inquire why we bring strangers into our home for dinner. I’ve explained that already to some degree. It harks back to the biblical idea of hospitality. The bible says we as Christians are to be given to or practicing hospitality. “Seek to show hospitality” (Romans 12:13). The word translated “hospitality” is literally “love of strangers”. We today live in such a busy, self-centered world we don’t even have time for friends! Who has time to prepare dinner? It would make a much bigger impression on our children’s future, I suggest, to be calling off most of their persistent sports idolatry to enjoy family dinner at home and to practice the “love of strangers” with such guests. Today’s children know little or nothing of such an approach to community. And our churches wonder how to reach the lost. Reach them for what?” (p153)

  • “You can work on your own lifestyle, not to imitate us, but to evaluate whether or not your schedules and routines have space for “strangers”. You can do something about that and begin to cultivate friends with those not naturally like you. And to begin, pray that god will lead you to someone who needs what you have to give in Christ.” (p157)

  • “Let me point out that people, according to the bible, come in only two “sizes”: saved sinners or lost sinners. The person who is a lost sinner has a problem with sin. That is, he is under God’s wrath and curse, at alienation with God, an enemy of truth and righteousness. His relationship with God is warfare! And until one bows down to God in humble confession and commits himself in faith to Jesus Christ, he will never be reconciled to God. That’s the essence of sin: rebellion against the living God. The saved sinner, on the other hand, struggles with sins (plural). He now walks with Christ, but by the same faith seeks grace to overcome remaining habits and failures as the Spirit works to conform him to the image of Christ. What does this mean in practice? I do not spend time talking with a non-Christian about his sins. That’s not his problem. His problem is his sin: his broken relationship with God.” (p158)


Activating Cellular Data on iPhone for Page Plus
I recently activated two iPhone 6s Plus and one iPhone 6 Plus phones for use on the Page Plus network and went through enough pain with their customer reps that I know exactly what to do now. The below steps assume you already have an active line with Page Plus.

  1. Buy your iPhone and get a nano simcard from Page Plus ($.99 with free shipping if purchased directly from Page Plus).

  2. Have your old phone and sim card on hand.

  3. Call or live chat a Page Plus representative to activate the new phone. The rep will need the MEID and sim card numbers for both old and new phones.

  4. Check that the iPhone is active by making an outbound call.

  5. After hanging up with the rep, go to the website ivzwinternet.tracfone.com using your Safari browser. You MUST use the Safari browser to do this; using Chrome or any other browser will not work.

  6. Your iPhone will prompt you to install a profile that it cannot authenticate. Install the profile. Check that it is installed.

  7. Turn off wifi, turn on cellular data, and then try to use Safari or any other browser to open up a website to ensure your data now works.

That should do it!

Next Chapter?
Post-exam Life. Praise God for getting me through what is hopefully my last exam season. After fifteen years of taking exams, there is a chance that I am done forever. Results come out in late June so praying for good news.

With all the time spent in preparing for an exam, it's always an adjustment to return to real life. E wore my patience thin the first few days, and I may have worn G's patience for me as well! We were also fortunate to enjoy an impromptu date night last night while also visiting M&L's new little one.

If I'm finally done with exams, it will open up my schedule to spend on a number of things:

  • Hanging out with people, whether informally to chill or formally for discipleship or fellowship groups.

  • Working out. I don't think I've consistently worked out since E was born. This is a long ways from working out several times a week in college or twice a week post-college and even once or twice a week with G before E.

  • Lawn care. Weeds, brown spots on the lawn, sprinkler issues, etc. Never thought I would enjoy doing this sort of thing but I am starting to appreciate the serene environment and fresh air.

  • Cooking! G has taken on all the household duties closer to my exam date, so now (and hopefully from here on out) I can resume cooking duties.

?. We are really happy that we're expecting ? into the world very soon. The question mark is because we still have no idea what to name her. We've gone through the Bible for female names several times, but finding a unique and meaningful name is difficult. The current front runners are Lydia but we've added Noelle due to our finding out about her existance on Christmas morning. We're thinking of going through Hebrew names as well to see if anything strikes our fancy (e.g. Eliana).

E. E is still growing by leaps and bounds. He is talking so much, enjoying typical boyish activities (shooting guns, playing with cars, throwing and kicking balls, swinging bats and rods), and just being a delight... until my patience starts to wear thin by the end of the night and I am on edge ready to just leave him in his room and let him figure a way to put himself to sleep. And then the morning comes and he's a new ray of light. It's amazing how good sleep can change things.

Politics. Few could imagine arriving at our current state of politics. The choices are as dissatifying as ever, and the process to this point has left me with a few poignant observations:

  • The way that culture and ethnic identity played out between Cruz and Rubio brought back memories of my teenage years. Rubio essentially called out Cruz for not being hispanic enough due to his weak language skills. The content of Rubio's critique wasn't as noteable as the tone of the critique - there was an air of self-righteousness and discrimination. I could not help but think back to first-generation teenagers teasing me for being American-born and thus without the same fluency and cultural knowledge that they had. To me, this was probably the low point of Rubio's campaign.

  • The revelation of one's true character. Rubio's attack on Cruz was a good example but there are better examples, such as Ben Carson fighting against Trump and then throwing full support behind him. G and I already knew that Mr. Carson did not have the political experience to handle the role of president, but what hurt more was to see him contradict who he was and the reason for campaigning to begin with was far more revealing. I recall reading that Mr. Carson justified this alliance as the best way to still do good. I think most people see through this reasoning. Sad to see a man of God who was previously so admired by G and I to succumb to political and fleshly pressures. (In his defense, those temptations are probably stronger than I can even imagine.)

Technology. G and I recently switched from Android to Apple. My work provided an iPhone 6s and I was immediately smitted by how fast and sharp the camera was. I think the apps are still better in Android as is the options to customize, but the overall interface and system of the iPhone is very attractive. I especially like the fingerprint reader for convenience. I ported my personal number into Google Voice so I have both personal and work numbers attached to the iPhone.

Preaching. I am starting to prepare an upcoming message on "How to Choose and Commit to a Church". Our congregation recently lost a children's minister who was very popular. The effect has been significant on families that attend our church, with parents very concerned about the negative impact on the ministry. Personally, I think this recent event may be more of a "last straw" situation where other perceived weaknesses in our church are made more prominent. Regardless, the concerns raised and communicated are worth looking into and honestly assessing so that we can faithfully improve in all areas possible.

I want the message to address all of those concerns indirectly by helping people understand how ideally they play their part in a church and how to discern whether the issue is more on them or more on the church itself. I think of all the conversations I've had with people about this same topic, and even my own thought process many few years ago when I re-assessed my participation in the church. Hopefully, by God's grace, I can speak to people's hearts and help them to truly know whether God wants them to stay or go.

Growing Up Together
When it's been a long time in between posts, I try to rationalize my absence by telling myself I am brainstorming topics about which I should write. Several months have passed and just as many topics, both weighty and trivial, and yet still no posts. As usual, what I write about is just what is most pressing on my heart at the time I force myself to sit down and write. And at this very moment, the biggest things would be (1) E's growth, (2) my spiritual growth, and (3) miscellaneous commentary on recent events.

E's Growth. The one main topic I was going to write about was how G and I have been doing so well with sleep-training. I was going to write a self-congratulatory post on our routine to put him down yesterday, and then God decided to give him extra energy which ultimately thwarted that wonderful routine. (But for posterity, I still highly recommend the Ferber method. We add in a consistent pre-bedtime and during-bedtime routine every day. Before bed, we bathe him, lotion him up, brush his teeth, then bring him to his bedroom where we read him a few stories while he drinks his water, read him a final story in his crib, turn the light off, sing him a song, then pray with him. Lastly, I do this silly back and forth from the door to his crib, all the while saying "爸爸媽媽愛你".)

E has grown so much over the last year. He knows so many words, mostly in Chinese but also in English. In Chinese, he knows his VIP (爸爸, 妈妈, 阿公, 阿妈, 姑姑), affection (爱你!), foods (奶奶,水, 草莓, 蓝莓, 西瓜, 蛋蛋, 海带), animals (老虎, 大象, 企鹅, 乌龟, 狗狗, 猫, 鸟), and even one fairy tale story (小红帽). He uses English to cover pretty much everything else, from VIP (papa, unnie), foods (cheese), directions (one more, all done, let's go), bodily functions (poopoo, potty), and more. Instead of culling through my memory for all the great things to jot down, G has already beaten me to it so I'll share from her recent journal entry on E:

  • He raises his arms and says "up!" and when he wants you to get up and go somewhere with him.

  • I love his eyes that widen when they look up at me, his soft straight hair, his little feet.

  • He has a boo boo that he constantly wants me to kiss, pointing at it with expectation and saying "boo boo."

  • He loves Jie Jie, who likes him back but often tires of him, then tattling, "E is bothering me."

  • He will say "poo poo" before one comes but will run away and refuse to sit on the potty. We are working on that.

  • We are also working on using "gentle hands" with his friends, and no throwing, no hitting, and sitting still to eat.

  • He is sweet and gives kisses and waves generously.

  • He loves people, especially other kids.

  • He will walk up to people in the store and touch their leg, head tilted, goofy grin on his face, thinking they will play with him.

  • He loves all things he can hold and slide along the ground, like bats, an shovels.

  • He throws a good ball. Too good. Sometimes right in your face. We are working on that too.

Parenting has definitely opened up some new perspectives for me. The way E is quickly emulating both of us as parents is a scary yet awesome thought. We have the ability to teach him how to love others, work hard, and hopefully by God's grace to know and love God. Yet it's also scary because there are so many of my weaknesses that persist in my life before him that I do not wish to carry on in the next generation. For example, G pointed out to me recently that my tone and impatience with certain family members is something that even E notices at this early age.

My Spiritual Growth. I have also been working through extreme anger over the last year. This is completely new to me, in that while I've definitely been angry before, I've never allowed it to come out to the surface. I suppose lack of sleep and parenting with someone who cannot read my mind can result in less than ideal emotions coming out.

As I struggled to pray about my anger one night, I believe God gave me an impromptu bible lesson. God placed in my heart two passages: Matthew 17:20 and the story of the paralytic lowered through the roof.

The reference in Matthew about faith that can move mountains always perplexed me, but God illuminated my mind to show me that mountains represent anything collosal or gargantuan in your life that you cannot defeat or overcome. In my case, it is forgiving others who have hurt me as well as relinquishing the anger that results from that hurt. God has power over physical and spiritual healing, and all I need is to have even an iota of faith in the one true God.

Knowing that this power of God is available to me makes it no less difficult to ask for in my time of need, but having an extra reason to do so in the form of my little son is more than enough to rely more on God's grace instead of my own strength.

Miscellaneous. To be continued:

Latest apps.

It's been almost a year since my last post. (That has got to be a record.) So much has changed. E is 14 months now, walking and sort of talking. He is active, has a great sense of humor, and loves smiling at people and getting smiles in return. I watched him and G playing and laughing tonight before we put him to bed, and just felt so, so blessed.

As E grows up quickly before our eyes, I can already sense that he'll be picking up his parents traits, both good and bad. I want to be intentional about passing only good things to him, with the most important being that God is real, God loves him, and showed that through Jesus. I want him to know this knowledge is far greater and better than any accomplishment or accolate he can achieve on this earth.

And then I think about how often E has seen me with my smartphone in hand, and how rarely he has seen me with my bible. I think about Dr. C's memorial, and how his son said that he can still see Dr. C, with coffee in hand, studying the Good Book in his study early in the morning. Will E see this of me and G?

I also think about how much time we spend with those who don't know Jesus. I think about the parable of the great banquet, and how often I spend time with those who don't know Jesus, how often I spend time meeting new people for the sake of sharing the truth about this life and the next.

I thank God that He has given me this opportunity in this life. It's a great blessing and I just want to make sure I do it right.

Learning Anew
It's been a crazy, awesome, difficult, amazing three months. I've learned a lot about how to raise E but more importantly I am learning anew how to be a loving spouse. Specifically, I am reminded of two things:

  1. Loving G means sanctifying her. I must continue to lead G towards Christ in all that we do. This is especially difficult when I myself am not obedient, and so I must treasure my relationship with Christ every day.

  2. Loving G means remembering she is a part of me as I am a part of her. This reminds me to let not even one iota of sin or misunderstanding wedge between us. For example, if I feel neglected yet don't want to say so, I must still tell her in love. We are one flesh, and allowing unresolved pain take root in my heart hurts our collective body.

Thank God for continually guiding us through this new chapter of parenthood and marriage.

Baby Steps
G and I are biding our time before baby E arrives, me in front of my work laptop and G working on some Ikea frames. It's crazy to think this is likely the last free weekend (without the help of a babysitter) for a few decades. Impending doom not withstanding, we are extremely thankful to God for bringing us here.

I've been finding it hard to care for certain people recently. God showed me that I have been choosing who the gospel should include and exclude. This humbling from God reminded me that I must be diligent in studying the Bible and praying. I saw how big a difference this made in a man's life when I attended Dr. C's memorial service. He cared for people in a way that only someone who knew God could've done. May God root His gospel deep into my heart everyday.

A lot of things have changed recently, and it's time to record them for posterity.

I recently became an elder at our church. May God grant me faithfulness and wisdom to truly care for His flock. Also, may I always value praising Him for the forgiveness of my sins more than receiving praise for what I may do.

G and I also found out on Father's Day this year that we are expecting our first child! We are so thankful that God heard and answered our prayers, and hope we can raise this little one to know and seek God's voice throughout his life.

Of course, one of the first things G and I have discussed is what to name the baby. My dad shared with me how he and my mom chose my English and Chinese names. I couldn't help but get choked up thinking about the love and care my mom put into all the little details in my life, even before I was born. How amazing is a parent's love. I hope I can make her proud as a parent myself.